The day your child says "I do" is a milestone up there with first steps, first words and graduation. But what exactly does it mean to be a Mother-of-the-Bride or Groom? For some this title might seem a bit formal or traditional. For others it might even seem intimidating. What exactly is expected of the mother? Is this simply an honourary title or are there certain expectations and responsibilities that come with it? More importantly, what does she wear?! Not to fear, we are here to shed some light on what it means to be a modern day mother-of-the-bride or groom!
Let's talk tradition for a second. In years past, the mother-of-the-bride was typically expected to assist the bride with her wedding plans, host guests at the bridal shower and often act as a contact for important vendors. After the bride and bridesmaids, she was also given first choice when it came to choosing her gown; setting the tone in terms of formality or, more literally, in terms of what colours were suitable for the mother-of-the-groom to wear. As for the mother-of-the-groom, her role was to host the rehearsal dinner (with the help of the father-of-the-groom) and choose a gown that compliments, but does not out-shine, the mother-of-the-bride. Additionally, both mothers were required to formulate a list of preferred guests including extended family and close friends. Depending on the couple, some of these traditions might still be observed while others are less common.
The modern bride tends to give her mother and future mother-in-law more freedom when it comes to both their duties and their fashion choices. In terms of what to wear, most brides prefer that their mother's steer clear of the colour they have chosen for their bridesmaids. Depending on the formality of the wedding, long or short gowns might both be appropriate. Complementary colours might still be requested by the bride but more often than not we hear brides saying they simply wish to see their mom and mother-in-law-to-be wearing whatever makes her most happy and comfortable on the big day.
Source: Pearl Mother's by Romantic Bridals
Here at Lovebird Bridal we often get asked what the current trends are for mothers. For a more formal occasion, long gowns with small trains and beaded embellishments are common. Silhouettes vary from flattering fit-and-flares to flowy a-lines. For a less formal event, moms might prefer something tea- or knee-length or a floor length style with fewer embellishments. Lace is popular for either a formal or informal occasion. For the upcoming seasons we are also seeing two-toned and patterned dresses starting to make an appearance as well. If all else fails, a classic tailored pencil style dress and jacket never go out of style!
As with any type of fashion, colour preferences vary with the seasons. For fall or winter, colours we often see are deep navy, bright cobalt, neutral charcoal or rich jewel-tones like dark purples, dark teals and deep reds. For a spring or summer wedding, moms often like light silver or taupe, soft nudes like tan or peach, or pastels like lavender, periwinkle or mint.
Source: Jade by Jasmine
When it comes time to start looking for her gown, a mother-of-the-bride or groom should start shopping early! Like bridesmaids dresses, mothers gowns can take roughly 4 months to arrive. Not to fear though, if you are shopping on a tighter timeline, boutiques often have off the rack options for moms!
Once the big day comes, the most important thing is that each mom feels like the beautiful woman that she is. If ever unsure, it is always helpful to seek the guidance of a bridal consultant once you have discussed with the bride what she envisions for her big day! No matter what a mom chooses to wear, her child's wedding day is sure to be a day of celebration and overwhelming joy. We wish each and every mom the best of luck in finding her perfect dress and hope she enjoys her time as a mother-of-the-bride or groom!!
Source: Social Occassions by Mon Cheri